I DON'T DEGRADE* FEMALES OR BRAG ABOUT SEXUAL EXPLOITS* (DEGRADE FEMALES BY BRAGGING ABOUT THEM). I'VE NEVER BEEN THE TYPE OF GUY THAT TELLS OTHER GUYS WHAT HE'S DONE TO A FEMALE SEXUALLY OR HOW A FEMALE BEHAVES SEXUALLY ("SHE SUCKS DICK GOOD" OR "IT DOESN'T TAKE MUCH TO FUCK HER ($1)"). I'VE NEVER BEEN THAT WAY AND I DON'T LIKE GUYS THAT ARE THAT WAY. THIS MAY SEEM A LITTLE COUNTERINTUITIVE BASED ON THE CRASS, CRUDE, LOWER CLASS, SEXUAL THINGS I WRITE ON THE INTERNET, BUT, ONCE AGAIN, THIS IS JUST A PERSONA. THIS IS JUST A SHOW I'M PUTTING ON TO ENTERTAIN YOU PEOPLE AND NOT AN ACCURATE INDICATION OF HOW I AM IN REAL LIFE. FOR INSTANCE, A COUPLE POSTS BELOW YOU SEE ME DEMEANING AND DISPARAGING A FEW FEMALES. BUT I'M ONLY DOING THIS BECAUSE YOU PEOPLE HAD GOTTEN THE WRONG IDEA (WERE CONNECTING ME TO PEOPLE I DIDN'T KNOW AND I GOT UPSET ABOUT THAT ) AND A COUPLE OF THOSE FEMALES DISRESPECTED ME, SO I FELT I HAD TO RETALIATE. OTHER THAN THIS, I DON'T BRAG OR BOAST ABOUT FEMALES OR TRY TO EMBARRASS AND HUMILIATE THEM.
LIKE, I WOULD NEVER SAY SOMETHING LIKE THIS:
She
talkin bout she won't some Golden State gear lol ..... NOOOO you ain't
Finna have yo main rockin my stuff at 24 hour fitness
SHE'S A FRIEND OF YOURS OR A FAN OF YOURS AND WANTS TO REPRESENT YOU AND WHAT YOU'RE A PART OF. WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO RIDICULE HER FOR THAT? WHAT DID SHE DO WRONG? THE NIGGER MAKE NO CENT.
I DON'T HAVE A LOVE. I HAVE NO RELATIONSHIPS WITH ANY FEMALES AND THERE ARE NO FEMALES I'VE IMPREGNATED. PLEASE GET THAT THROUGH YOUR THICKE SKULLS.
ANYWAY, I DO DENIGRATE AND DEGRADE MALES, BUT NOT IN THE WAY THAT MALES DENIGRATE AND DEGRADE ME OR IN THE WAY MOST MALES DENIGRATE AND DEGRADE ONE ANOTHER. I MAKE FUN OF THEIR LOOKS (LACK OF ATTRACTIVENESS) AND PERSONALITY TRAITS (POOR PERSONALITY TRAITS SUCH AS DECEPTIVENESS, DUPLICITY (2-FACEDNESS), DISINGENUOUSNESS (INSINCERITY), LACK OF CONSCIENCE, LACK OF CONSCIENTIOUSNESS, AND LACK OF MORALITY), WHEREAS MOST MALES DENIGRATE AND DEGRADE MALES (ME) BASED ON THE TYPE OF WORK THEY DO AND THE AMOUNT OF INCOME THEY MAKE. READ BELOW.
The presence of rivals who may attempt to lure a mate away from an existing long-term mateship, by itself, may not constitute an adaptive threat. A street bum or a bag lady leering at your partner, for example, may not tempt your partner in the slightest, and so poses no threat. Rivals become relevant only when they display an equivalent or higher level of desirability.
Men's value as a mate, more than women's, is closely linked with the ability to secure resources as well as the qualities that tend to lead to resources such as status, ambition, industriousness, and maturity. Women universally desire men with good financial prospects. This preference does not diminish when women gain personal access to financial resource, nor when women achieve high socioeconomic status, nor even when women reside in cultures of relatively high economic equality between the sexes. Furthermore, since violence has been a recurrent problem women face at the hands of men, women place a greater premium on qualities that signal man's ability to protect her, such as physical strength and athletic prowess. The ability to secure economic resources and possess athletic prowess, in short, are more central to men's than to women's overall value on the mating market. Physical attractiveness in contrast is more central to women's overall desirability on the mating market.
These fundamental sex-linked desires have enormous consequences for the triggers of jealousy in men and women, following the principle of co-evolution. Jealousy in each sex has evolved to mirror the mate preferences of the other sex. Since women desire professionally successful men, for example, men's jealousy should have evolved in tandem to be activated by a rival who excels professionally. And since men place a premium on youth and physical appearance, women's jealousy should have evolved to be especially sensitive to rivals who are younger or more physically alluring. The design of the jealousy defense, in short, should have been sculpted by generations of mate preferences imposed by the opposite sex.
The Dangerous Passion: Why Jealousy Is as Necessary as Love and Sex. Buss, p. 66-67
If suppressing one's own jealousy and evoking jealousy in partners are two tactics for coping with problems of relative mate value, a third doping strategy involves derogation of competitors...
...
The most important finding was that people denigrate their rivals on precisely the dimensions they believed that their partner valued. If their partner prized intelligence in a potential partner, then participants derogated their rivals by evaluating them as stupid. If their partner valued honesty, participants rated their rivals as deceitful. If their partner appreciated height, participants rated their rivals as Lilliputian. Whatever qualities their partner admired, participants found rivals woefully lacking in precisely those qualities.
The author of this study interprets these findings according to a standard theory of self-esteem: people's self-esteem is threatened when their partners are attracted to rivals, and so denigrating the rival is a method of restoring feelings of self-worth. This interpretation is endorsed by two leading jealousy researchers, Gregory White and Paul Mullen: "The goal of derogation of the rival is to reduce the...threat to self-esteem."
...Derogation is an adaptive strategy that succeeds when it effectively decreases a rival's mate value...
We started by asking men and women to tell us what verbal barbs they have used themselves, or heard others us, to render their rivals less desirable to their romantic partners...we wanted to discover which derogation tactics men and women used and how effective they were likely to be...Men tended to denigrate their rival's resources, indicating that their rival lacked money, drove a run-down old car, was viewed as a loser, and was likely to do poor professionally. Women, in contrast, tended to deride their rival's physical appearance, making fun of the size and shape of the rival's body, laughing at the rival's hairstyle and clothes, and pointing out blemishes and asymmetries. The tactics were also sex-linked in their perceived effectiveness. It proved to be far more effective for men than women to derogate a rival's resource potential, present or future, whereas women achieved greater success by ridiculing a rival's appearance.
The Dangerous Passion: Why Jealousy Is as Necessary as Love and Sex. Buss, p. 198-200
A woman's biology changes in very interesting ways during her monthly cycle, with many implications for deceit and self-deception. Women are more attractive at the time of ovulation - they appear to be physically more symmetrical and their waist/hip ratio is slightly more curvaceous. They also denigrate the looks of other women more than at other times in the cycle. Are they (unconsciously) comparing other women to themselves and derogating other women because they themselves are relatively more attractive when ovulating, or are they adding a degree of derogation so as to accentuate their own superior appearance when it most matters? I would imagine the latter, but the evidence is not sufficient to say. (The Folly of Fools)
One of the most vivid demonstrations of the destruction caused by jealous rivals comes not from a formal scientific study, but rather from a journalist's shocking expose of jealousy in Jamaica. In the city of Kingston, the nightlife swirls and DJs boom out songs about heart-wrenching suffering in triangular relationships. The triangles typically center on a man, his girlfriend, ("matey") and the woman who's the mother of his children ("babymother"). The songs pulse and grind, the torrid beat lightened by playful lyrics that convey stories of rivalry and betrayal.
Money is scarce, but what money is available often gets funneled into sharp clothes in a plumage-like competition for desirable mates. The successfully partnered cannot rest easy. Both sexes fear being usurped by rivals. The qualities of dangerous rivals are predictably different for men and women: "the men fear being left for a better economic prospect and the women expect to be usurped by young, up-and-coming mateys."
The women look for men of means, a man with "sweets," to escape the struggle for survival and to secure a steady stream of income for their children. Men use their resources to lure young women. Cars and cellular phones signal status, so a man might say, "Come baby love. You want to come in my car? You want to talk on my cellular phone?"
Since most men lack resources, women compete fiercely for those who have them. Sandy age 19, was among the most successful competitors when she entered the nightlife scene. She used to be a "hot girl." She dressed in the most fashionable style, name-brand clothes mailed to her from sisters in New York. And she had her own money. The most wealthy don of the area, a flashy dresser named Lucky, noticed her. He already had five babymothers, but Sandy was so young and hot that Lucky could not resist. He bought Sandy fine gifts and he swept her away. She fell in love and became pregnant. But the relationship carried a danger Sandy did not anticipate.
While shopping on a busy street one afternoon, someone tapped Sandy on the shoulder. When she turned, she was confronted with one of Lucky's babymothers, holding in her hand a bucket of liquid. Within seconds, Sandy's face and body were splashed with a volatile mixture of acid and gunpowder. Sandy screamed. The flesh on her face melted beneath the burning acid, her face permanently disfigured by her jealous rival.
Sandy spent a year in the hospital getting skin grafts, and the next two years recovering. Today she's stoic about the events: "Lucky's babymother had a grudge feeling. I was the hottest girl around here. I had money, I was studying, I had body suits, shorts, Fila boots, Guess shoes...pure name-brand. And I was pregnant - maybe that's why she did it. If a woman hears a man checking another girl, she comes to burn you up with acid. Acid you, to spoil your beauty."
The Dangerous Passion: Why Jealousy Is as Necessary as Love and Sex. Buss, p. 71-72
I DON'T HAVE A LOVE. I HAVE NO RELATIONSHIPS WITH ANY FEMALES AND THERE ARE NO FEMALES I'VE IMPREGNATED. PLEASE GET THAT THROUGH YOUR THICKE SKULLS.
ANYWAY, I DO DENIGRATE AND DEGRADE MALES, BUT NOT IN THE WAY THAT MALES DENIGRATE AND DEGRADE ME OR IN THE WAY MOST MALES DENIGRATE AND DEGRADE ONE ANOTHER. I MAKE FUN OF THEIR LOOKS (LACK OF ATTRACTIVENESS) AND PERSONALITY TRAITS (POOR PERSONALITY TRAITS SUCH AS DECEPTIVENESS, DUPLICITY (2-FACEDNESS), DISINGENUOUSNESS (INSINCERITY), LACK OF CONSCIENCE, LACK OF CONSCIENTIOUSNESS, AND LACK OF MORALITY), WHEREAS MOST MALES DENIGRATE AND DEGRADE MALES (ME) BASED ON THE TYPE OF WORK THEY DO AND THE AMOUNT OF INCOME THEY MAKE. READ BELOW.
The presence of rivals who may attempt to lure a mate away from an existing long-term mateship, by itself, may not constitute an adaptive threat. A street bum or a bag lady leering at your partner, for example, may not tempt your partner in the slightest, and so poses no threat. Rivals become relevant only when they display an equivalent or higher level of desirability.
Men's value as a mate, more than women's, is closely linked with the ability to secure resources as well as the qualities that tend to lead to resources such as status, ambition, industriousness, and maturity. Women universally desire men with good financial prospects. This preference does not diminish when women gain personal access to financial resource, nor when women achieve high socioeconomic status, nor even when women reside in cultures of relatively high economic equality between the sexes. Furthermore, since violence has been a recurrent problem women face at the hands of men, women place a greater premium on qualities that signal man's ability to protect her, such as physical strength and athletic prowess. The ability to secure economic resources and possess athletic prowess, in short, are more central to men's than to women's overall value on the mating market. Physical attractiveness in contrast is more central to women's overall desirability on the mating market.
These fundamental sex-linked desires have enormous consequences for the triggers of jealousy in men and women, following the principle of co-evolution. Jealousy in each sex has evolved to mirror the mate preferences of the other sex. Since women desire professionally successful men, for example, men's jealousy should have evolved in tandem to be activated by a rival who excels professionally. And since men place a premium on youth and physical appearance, women's jealousy should have evolved to be especially sensitive to rivals who are younger or more physically alluring. The design of the jealousy defense, in short, should have been sculpted by generations of mate preferences imposed by the opposite sex.
The Dangerous Passion: Why Jealousy Is as Necessary as Love and Sex. Buss, p. 66-67
If suppressing one's own jealousy and evoking jealousy in partners are two tactics for coping with problems of relative mate value, a third doping strategy involves derogation of competitors...
...
The most important finding was that people denigrate their rivals on precisely the dimensions they believed that their partner valued. If their partner prized intelligence in a potential partner, then participants derogated their rivals by evaluating them as stupid. If their partner valued honesty, participants rated their rivals as deceitful. If their partner appreciated height, participants rated their rivals as Lilliputian. Whatever qualities their partner admired, participants found rivals woefully lacking in precisely those qualities.
The author of this study interprets these findings according to a standard theory of self-esteem: people's self-esteem is threatened when their partners are attracted to rivals, and so denigrating the rival is a method of restoring feelings of self-worth. This interpretation is endorsed by two leading jealousy researchers, Gregory White and Paul Mullen: "The goal of derogation of the rival is to reduce the...threat to self-esteem."
...Derogation is an adaptive strategy that succeeds when it effectively decreases a rival's mate value...
We started by asking men and women to tell us what verbal barbs they have used themselves, or heard others us, to render their rivals less desirable to their romantic partners...we wanted to discover which derogation tactics men and women used and how effective they were likely to be...Men tended to denigrate their rival's resources, indicating that their rival lacked money, drove a run-down old car, was viewed as a loser, and was likely to do poor professionally. Women, in contrast, tended to deride their rival's physical appearance, making fun of the size and shape of the rival's body, laughing at the rival's hairstyle and clothes, and pointing out blemishes and asymmetries. The tactics were also sex-linked in their perceived effectiveness. It proved to be far more effective for men than women to derogate a rival's resource potential, present or future, whereas women achieved greater success by ridiculing a rival's appearance.
The Dangerous Passion: Why Jealousy Is as Necessary as Love and Sex. Buss, p. 198-200
A woman's biology changes in very interesting ways during her monthly cycle, with many implications for deceit and self-deception. Women are more attractive at the time of ovulation - they appear to be physically more symmetrical and their waist/hip ratio is slightly more curvaceous. They also denigrate the looks of other women more than at other times in the cycle. Are they (unconsciously) comparing other women to themselves and derogating other women because they themselves are relatively more attractive when ovulating, or are they adding a degree of derogation so as to accentuate their own superior appearance when it most matters? I would imagine the latter, but the evidence is not sufficient to say. (The Folly of Fools)
"I'M THE JUDGE IN THIS COURTHOUSE!" - B00
Money is scarce, but what money is available often gets funneled into sharp clothes in a plumage-like competition for desirable mates. The successfully partnered cannot rest easy. Both sexes fear being usurped by rivals. The qualities of dangerous rivals are predictably different for men and women: "the men fear being left for a better economic prospect and the women expect to be usurped by young, up-and-coming mateys."
The women look for men of means, a man with "sweets," to escape the struggle for survival and to secure a steady stream of income for their children. Men use their resources to lure young women. Cars and cellular phones signal status, so a man might say, "Come baby love. You want to come in my car? You want to talk on my cellular phone?"
Since most men lack resources, women compete fiercely for those who have them. Sandy age 19, was among the most successful competitors when she entered the nightlife scene. She used to be a "hot girl." She dressed in the most fashionable style, name-brand clothes mailed to her from sisters in New York. And she had her own money. The most wealthy don of the area, a flashy dresser named Lucky, noticed her. He already had five babymothers, but Sandy was so young and hot that Lucky could not resist. He bought Sandy fine gifts and he swept her away. She fell in love and became pregnant. But the relationship carried a danger Sandy did not anticipate.
While shopping on a busy street one afternoon, someone tapped Sandy on the shoulder. When she turned, she was confronted with one of Lucky's babymothers, holding in her hand a bucket of liquid. Within seconds, Sandy's face and body were splashed with a volatile mixture of acid and gunpowder. Sandy screamed. The flesh on her face melted beneath the burning acid, her face permanently disfigured by her jealous rival.
Sandy spent a year in the hospital getting skin grafts, and the next two years recovering. Today she's stoic about the events: "Lucky's babymother had a grudge feeling. I was the hottest girl around here. I had money, I was studying, I had body suits, shorts, Fila boots, Guess shoes...pure name-brand. And I was pregnant - maybe that's why she did it. If a woman hears a man checking another girl, she comes to burn you up with acid. Acid you, to spoil your beauty."
The Dangerous Passion: Why Jealousy Is as Necessary as Love and Sex. Buss, p. 71-72
Gossip Drives Social Bonding and Helps People Learn: the only thing worse than being talked about Is NOT being talked about. Gossip enables social connection and helps people learn indirectly about the world based on other people’s experiences blog.pnas.org/2021/05/gossip
- Gender mainstreaming: Women gossip more than men, particularly about physical appearance, and find it more enjoyable https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40806-017-0121-9 …
Don't be known as the dude that's always talking about the next man.
Humans Evolved To Gossip, Rob. Everybody Does Whether They're Conscious Of It Or Not, Whether They Admit To It Or Not. Some Of It Is Driven By A Desire To Bond With Your Fellow Man, Some Of It's Driven By A Desire To Punish Your Fellow Man (Damage His/Her Reputation), But Most Of It Is Driven By ENVY And JEALOUSY, Especially SEXUAL JEALOUSY. Now, Read The Gossip Below, Rob. (MAYBE MY LAYMAN HYPOTHESIS ABOUT GOSSIP IS WRONG. READ HERE: http://www.psmag.com/navigation/health-and-behavior/gossip-really-whisper-rumors-93025/ )
Everybody's sin is nobody's sin: Naturalistic study shows that nearly everyone gossips, gossip is mostly neutral and not malicious, and nice people even gossip a bit more. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/1948550619837000 …
WHY WE GOSSIP! READ THE PAIGES BELOW!
(We Gossip To Kept One Another In Check, Which Means Gossip Prevents Us From Violating Norms And Mores Or Doing Things That The Culture Or Peer Group Don't Approve Of (Bullying, Sexual Deviance, Social Deviance, Etc.)!)
MALES AND FEMALES ARE INNATELY INCLINED TO KEEP TRACK OF THE SEX LIVES OF FELLOW MALES AND FEMALES (IT'S CLOSELY RELATED TO OUR DRIVE TO GOSSIP). I TRY NOT TO CONCERN MYSELF WITH ANY OF THAT (I'M LESS NOSEY THAN I MAKE MYSELF OUT TO BE ON THE INTERNET; SOMETIMES I MAKE OUT WITH MYSELF ON THE INTERNET!).
On February 28, 1997, Monica Lewinsky entered the Oval Office for her final sexual encounter with the President, Bill Clinton. The president gave her a few gifts, and then...according to Lewinsky's testimony:
Why would a man on woman risk so much - status, reputation, honor, marriage, children, and even personal safety - for a few minutes of sexual gratification? How can we explain the puzzling pervasiveness of infidelity that violates the marital vows?
(The Dangerous Passion)
You're All Reading The Personal And Private Stuff I Write About ME And My Family And You're Focusing On The Sexual Matters, Particularly My Siblings Relationships With The Opposite SEX, My Lack Of Relationships With The Opposite SEX, My Psychological Hang-Up (Social Anxiety), Which Has Led To My Lack Of Relationships With The Opposite SEX, And My Corny Humor Which Involves SEX Or Sexual Matters. This Has Led Many Of You To Speculate About My Sexual Orientation, Sex Life, And Sexual History. I'll Often Hear When I'm Out And About, "He's Bi!" Or "He's Still A Virgin!" Or "He Just Started [Just Started Having SEX]" Or "He Doesn't Get Any (NONE)". Why Are You People So Concerned With This And Why, Out Of All The Shit I'm Writing/Excerpting, Are These The Only Things You People Remember. Because Viewed from an evolutionary perspective...few domains have greater reproductive consequences than the sex lives of others. In Other Words, Another Person's Sexual Orientation, Sex Life, And Sexual History Have An Impact On Your Sexual Orientation, Sex Life, And Sexual History. For Instance, If A Male Has A Female Mate Or Multiple Female Mates That's One Less Female Mate That You Can Have Or At Least A Female Mate That You'll Have To Work A Little Harder To Court And Lure From Her Current Mate (The Male Whose Sex Life You're Focusing On).
"We went back over by the bathroom in the hallway, and we kissed. We were kissing and he unbuttoned my dress and fondled my breasts with my bra on, and then he took them out of my bra and was kissing them and touching them with his hands and with his mouth. And then I think I was touching him in his genital area through his pants, and I think I unbuttoned his shirt and was kissing his chest. And then...I wanted to perform oral sex on him...so I did...And...then he pushed me away, kind of as he always did before he came, and then I stood up and said...I care about you so much;...I don't understand why you won't let me...make you come; it's important to me; I mean, it just doesn't feel complete, it doesn't seem right."
They hugged and looked at each other, and the President said, "I don't want to disappoint you." Then Monica Lewinsky continued to perform oral sex on the president to completion. Subsequent laboratory tests revealed that the semen stain on the dress Lewinsky wore that day contained DNA that matched the President's, providing incontrovertible evidence of a secret affair that the two had been carrying on from November 15, 1995, through their final encounter on February 28, 1977.What was striking about the Lewinksy-Clinton affair was neither the salaciousness of the sexual acts, nor the fact that Bill Clinton was married. Affairs are commonplace and most sex partners engage in oral sex. What was arresting was the sheer volume of public attention - a feeding frenzy of unseemly obsession - in what in nearly any other context would be a rather banal sequence of events. Viewed from an evolutionary perspective, however, few domains have greater reproductive consequences than the sex lives of others. As a result, we attend to, and remember most vividly, events with reproductive repercussions. Americans' apparent obsession with every lurid detail of the sexual encounters of President Clinton and Monica Lewinsky, and not with every detail of, say, Clinton's golf game, reveals this ancient human interest.
Why would a man on woman risk so much - status, reputation, honor, marriage, children, and even personal safety - for a few minutes of sexual gratification? How can we explain the puzzling pervasiveness of infidelity that violates the marital vows?
(The Dangerous Passion)
You're All Reading The Personal And Private Stuff I Write About ME And My Family And You're Focusing On The Sexual Matters, Particularly My Siblings Relationships With The Opposite SEX, My Lack Of Relationships With The Opposite SEX, My Psychological Hang-Up (Social Anxiety), Which Has Led To My Lack Of Relationships With The Opposite SEX, And My Corny Humor Which Involves SEX Or Sexual Matters. This Has Led Many Of You To Speculate About My Sexual Orientation, Sex Life, And Sexual History. I'll Often Hear When I'm Out And About, "He's Bi!" Or "He's Still A Virgin!" Or "He Just Started [Just Started Having SEX]" Or "He Doesn't Get Any (NONE)". Why Are You People So Concerned With This And Why, Out Of All The Shit I'm Writing/Excerpting, Are These The Only Things You People Remember. Because Viewed from an evolutionary perspective...few domains have greater reproductive consequences than the sex lives of others. In Other Words, Another Person's Sexual Orientation, Sex Life, And Sexual History Have An Impact On Your Sexual Orientation, Sex Life, And Sexual History. For Instance, If A Male Has A Female Mate Or Multiple Female Mates That's One Less Female Mate That You Can Have Or At Least A Female Mate That You'll Have To Work A Little Harder To Court And Lure From Her Current Mate (The Male Whose Sex Life You're Focusing On).
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