Friday, October 10, 2014

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Assortative mating leads people to choose spouses that have similar underlying genes. This paper, using over 24k European couples, found similarity among spouses' genetic loci for educational attainment, height and blood pressure.
Educational attainment is heritable and like attracts like → your genes predict your mate's educational attainment
WE PREFER TO DATE AND MATE WITH THOSE WHO ARE LIKE US (LOOK LIKE US, THINK LIKE US, ACT LIKE US, COME FROM THE SAME RACIAL BACKGROUND, ETHNIC BACKGROUND, SOCIOECONOMIC BACKGROUND, EDUCATIONAL BACKGROUND, ETC ) BECAUSE WE'RE NARCISSISTS. READ THE LINKS ABOVE!

We take for granted the fact that, whenever we want, we can see an unbelievably detailed image of ourselves in the mirror🪞 But consider that for the majority of human history, you were never able to actually, really see yourself. A thread on the humble, magical mirror.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qHvRXWAO9so

How Spouses Are Genetically Similar


http://www.euvolution.com/euvolution/couples.html
For men and women of above-average intelligence, the coeducational colleges of the nation are today the most significant institutions for mate selection and family formation. They are admirably suited to fill this role because they are semi-closed communities in which young men and women live and study together during years of heightened sexual vigor, fecundity, and growing interest in forming stable emotional unions. Marriages of college students, during study or upon graduation, tend to bring together men and women more assortatively mated than the average for intelligence and with greater than average promise of producing superior-to-gifted children.
  
http://www.euvolution.com/articles/gensim01.html
That genotypes seek out maximally conducive environments is particularly well illustrated by findings that people select similar others with whom to associate, both as friends and as marriage partners. Both friends and spouses assort on the basis of such characteristics as race, socioeconomic status, physical attractiveness, religion, social attitudes, level of education, family size and structure, IQ, and longevity (Rushton, Russell & Wells, 1985; Thiessen & Gregg, 1980). Correlations tend to be higher for opinions, attitudes, and values (0.40 to 0.70) and lower for personality traits and personal habits (0.02 to 0.30). Advantages thought to accrue to optimizing similarity in personal relations include increased altruism, cooperation and trust. 

That such assortment is genetically mediated is suggested by studies of animals where assortative mating occurs in species ranging from insects through birds to primates (Thiessen & Gregg, 1980), and where animals raised apart show a preference to interact with kin rather than non-kin (Holmes & Sherman, 1983). My colleagues and I have investigated the phenomena in humans. Using blood antigen analyses to estimate genetic distance across 10 blood loci using 7 polymorphic marker systems (ABO, Rhesus (Rh), P, MNSS, Duffy (Fy), Kidd Jk), and HLA over 6 chromosomes, we found that both male friendship dyads and sexually interacting couples share more genetic markers than do randomly generated pairs from the same samples (Rushton, 1987; Rushton & Chan, 1987). We also found that the epigenetic rules inclining people to choose each on the basis of similarity appear to be fine tuned, biasing individuals to assort on the more genetically influenced of homogeneous attributes. Positive correlations between assortment and genetic influence have been observed on a variety of anthropometric, cognitive, personality and attitudinal characteristics in both friendships and marriages (Rushton & Nicholson, in press; Rushton & Russell, 1985; Russell, Wells & Rushton, 1985). Following the death of a child, for example, both mothers and fathers irrespective of sex of child are found to grieve more for children resembling their side of the family than they do for children resembling their spouse's side (Littlefield & Rushton, 1986). It would appear that people are able to detect genetic similarity in others and act accordingly. 

: How sexy is IQ in a partner? Both men & women strongly prefer mates of similar or higher IQ to themselves for long-term relationships; but even for short-term flings, less intelligent mates are somewhat less desirable.

http://www.reuters.com/article/2014/05/19/us-science-spouses-idUSKBN0DZ1VG20140519
We Choose Our Mates Partly Based On Educational Background And IQ Level. IF A MALE OR FEMALE HAS ATTAINED A SIMILAR LEVEL OF EDUCATION AS YOU AND IF HE OR SHE HAS A SIMILAR IQ AS YOU, YOU'RE MORE LIKELY TO DEVELOP A LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIP WITH HE OR SHE BECAUSE YOU'RE MORE LIKELY TO BELIEVE THE SAME THINGS, SHARE THE SAME PERSPECTIVE, THINK THE SAME WAY, AND HAVE THE SAME INTERESTS AND PREDILECTIONS.

AS MORE FEMALES EARN COLLEGE DEGREES MORE MEN (WHO'VE TYPICALLY ACQUIRED MORE YEARS OF EDUCATION THAN WOMEN IN DECADES PAST) HAVE MORE FEMALES OF THEIR EDUCATIONAL EQUIVALENT TO CHOOSE FROM.

Top income women in Sweden show mate preferences that are rather different from those of their male peers. sciencedirect.com/science/articl
“Women with large salaries, postgrad degrees, prestigious professions, and high self-esteem place greater value on wealth and status in a husband than other women do...Poor men place no higher value on wealth or earning power in a wife than other men do” goodreads.com/book/show/8356
https://twitter.com/robkhenderson/status/1167784169600163840


26:15 I Have Many NARCISSISTIC Traits In Common With Brian Blackwell!
"U IN LUV WIT YO SELF AND SHE IN LOVE WIT YO WEALTH...YYYYYY" - BABEE BASHIR


Although most research has focused on the aspects of relationships such as relative desirability and emotional dissatisfaction that lead to affairs, an often-overlooked predictor of infidelity is personality. Are people with certain personality characteristics more likely to leap into the arms of another? To answer this question, Todd Shackelford and I gave an extensive battery of personality tests to a group of 107 married couples in their newlywed year. Rather than settle for mere self-reports of personality, we secured three relatively independent evaluations: self-reports, reports from the spouse, and reports from two interviewers, a man and a woman. More than 100 measures of personality were examined, ranging from adventurousness to zaniness, but only three proved to be strong predictors of susceptibility to infidelity.

The first was narcissism. People high on narcissism have a grandiose sense of self-importance, often exaggerating their accomplishments or talents. They expect to be recognized by others as superior, and often get infuriated when such admiration is not forthcoming. Typically preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, status, or brilliance, they believe that they are "special" and unique, and that the usual rules and norms of social life do not apply to them. Narcissists require excessive admiration and go to great lengths to evoke it from others, often in a socially charming manner. A hallmark of narcissism is a profound sense of entitlement. Narcissistic people have unreasonable expectations of favorable treatment, expect that others will automatically comply with their expectations, and become furious when they don't. They take advantage of others, and although all people sometimes use others for their own ends, narcissists turn interpersonal exploitation into an art form. They make friends specifically for their wealth, generosity, and connections, and especially for the ease with which they can be exploited. Narcissists selectively chose those whom they can exploit, neglecting people who are more skeptical of their grandiose claims of superiority and specialness.

Perhaps most central for infidelity, narcissists typically lack empathy for the pain and suffering they cause others. They are so preoccupied with their own needs and desires, they neglect to consider how their actions might hurt even those closest to them. Finally, narcissists are frequently envious of others, resentful of those who might have more success, power, or prestige. Their envy may be linked to their fragile sense of self-esteem, since narcissists oscillate between feelings of grandiosity and feelings that they are worthless. Good behavioral markers of narcissism include showing off one's body (exhibitionistic), nominating oneself for a position of power (grandiose), taking the best piece of food for oneself (self-centered), asking for a large favor without offering repayment (sense of entitlement), laughing at a friend's problems (lack of empathy), and using friends for their wealth (interpersonally exploitative). All of these qualities seem conducive to gaining gratification outside marriage.

Narcissism proved to be highly linked with susceptibility to infidelity, even in the first year of marriage. Narcissists admitted that they are more likely to flirt with others, kiss others passionately, and go out on romantic dates with others. Their spouses concurred. They were also judged to be more susceptible to having one-night stands, brief affairs, and even serious affairs, and again their spouses concurred. These judgments of susceptibility to infidelity were borne out over the next four years. On follow up, we found that those who scored high on narcissism during their newlywed year were indeed more likely to have sexual affairs with others. Interestingly, narcissism proved to be as strong a "rick factor" for infidelity in women as in men. 

I Completely Disagree With Rafer. Just Because Everyone's Doing It (Being Narcissistic In This Case) Doesn't Mean That It's Right (Good For You And The Community As A Whole). Now, Rafer, Read About The 10 Signs Of Narcissism Here https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/communication-success/201507/10-signs-you-re-dating-narcissist Are Any Of These Characteristics Good For You And The Community As A Whole?
 http://www.meredithfsmall.com/2014/06/the-culture-of-narcissism.html
Schoolin' The Professor!

Narcissists, of course, can be very charming, entertaining, and highly engaging in social contexts. But those married to them are in for some suffering. Because of their excessive self-absorption, wild sense of entitlement, and lack of empathy for the harm they cause others, narcissists seek sexual gratification and esteem boosts from their affair partners. They undoubtedly justify their actions  - after all, they are all special, not subject to the same petty rules that others must slavishly follow, and so deserve special sources of gratification.  

Two other personality characteristics make it more likely that a spouse will stray: being low on conscientiousness and being high on a scale labeled psychoticism. Low conscientiousness is characterized by traits such as unreliability, negligence, carelessness, disorganization, laziness, impulsivity, and lack of self-control. Good behavioral markers of low conscientiousness include neglecting to pay one's bills on time, forgetting to pick up a friend after promising to do so, forgetting to thank others for their help, arriving late for a meeting, forgetting to turn off the lights after leaving a room, and impulsively purchasing an item without considering whether it's affordable.

The psychoticism scale is something of a misnomer, since high scores are not really psychotic. Rather, high scores tend to be very impulsive and lack inhibitory control, much like those low on conscientiousness. In extreme cases, high scores closely resemble the clinical picture of sociopathy, a personality disorder marked by a short-term sexual strategy, social conning, manipulativeness, and interpersonal exploitation. High scorers on this scale also lack empathy, like those high on narcissism. Good behavioral markers of psychoticism include laughing when a dog is hit by a car, showing indifference when a child is injured, suddenly breaking off friendships without warning or explanation, disappearing for several days without explanation, and impulsively shouting "obscenities" at other drivers he believe cut him off. Men, as you might guess, score higher on psychoticism than do women. 

Both low conscientiousness and high psychoticism proved to be solid predictors of marital infidelity. Like those high on narcissism, these people flirted, kissed, and date others more frequently than their more conscientious and less impulsive peers. And they more often leaped into bed with others without thinking of the consequences, both for one-night stands, brief flings, and even more serious affairs. These personality predictors showed remarkable consistency for men and women. Neither sex, it seems, is exempt from the long reach of personality in luring some married people into the enticing arms of others. A selfish, manipulative, and impulsive personality does not inevitably cause infidelity. But it raises the odds. 

The Dangerous Passion: Why Jealousy Is as Necessary as Love and Sex. Buss, p. 148-151.

"HOW THE FUCK YOU LOVE ME WHEN YOU DON'T LOVE YO SELF?!" - CRAWF DOGG 

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